A Love Story

People love to tell our story.  But in truth, our story really isn’t that special.  I mean, the short version is we have three children, currently all under the age of three.  The longer version is, well, I guess you could look at it like a word problem.  You have three children, two of them …

A Day at the Circus – Life with 5-Week-Old Twiblings

Ever wonder what life with twins would be like?  Double the fun?  Double the pleasure?  Well, the following is a true-account – like anyone could possibly make this up – of a random 24-hour period of parenting five-week-old twiblings and their two-year-old big sister. Oh, and our definition of “twiblings” is one biological child and …

The Love of Two Mothers: Coming to Terms with the Role of my Daughter’s Birth Mother

(Previously published on parentsociety.com, 21 May 2013 - http://www.parentsociety.com/pregnancy/adoption-parenting/two-mothers-love/)   I received an email from my daughter’s birth mother before Christmas that sent a shiver down my spine.  It was a short email, but she asked, “How is my little princess doing?”  In an instant my heart raced, my maternal hackles shot up and I became …

Happy Birthday, to a Little Girl I Almost Knew

(Previously published on parentsociety.com, 13 March 2013 -- http://www.parentsociety.com/pregnancy/adoption-parenting/happy-birthday-to-my-almost-adopted-child/)   A little over a year ago, our almost-daughter was born.  I don’t think about her often, but once in a while I wonder how she is and I hope she’s happy. When my husband and I embarked on our adoption quest two years ago, we knew …

Adoption Fears & Acceptance

Our adoption attorney said to me, “You’ve got such a great positive attitude!  I’m really impressed." “You should see me sobbing when I’m not on the phone with you,” I laughed.  Then I thought, God, if she thinks I have a positive attitude, who are the other adoptive parents she’s working with? But I was …

Overwhelmed (and a touch nauseous)

With a month to go until Bob was due, I was awash in feeling overwhelmed; and the worst part was that I knew I’d probably look back and laugh at my naïveté. But I tried to just take a deep breath and focus on what was in front of us. At that point, everything was …

Waiting for Bob

To get through the three months between getting matched with a birth-mom and flying from Kuwait to Los Angeles for the birth, my husband and I approached things a bit differently. The one thing we did agree on immediately was a temporary name. Saying the-baby-this and the-baby-that got tiring fairly quickly. So one morning I …

Looking Back: Pre-Parenthood

It was a year ago this month that my husband and I found out our adoption dreams were coming true; we'd been matched with a birth mother! With one phone call, we went from hopeful-wanna-be-parents, to pre-parents (and the switch was dizzying). It was all so overwhelming. Despite the two-and-a-half years we’d been trying to …

The Two P’s of Marriage

There’s nothing that can get my husband’s eyes rolling with greater velocity than when I mention I’m thinking about our Christmas plans and it’s June. Of course, I typically get the same reaction when I mention it again on December 10th, but by that point I’m equally exasperated as well. This begs the question; can …